Daily Archives: September 16, 2010

Bigger Picture Moments: Fear, Peace and Making Decisions

Welcome to Bigger Picture Moments, a weekly writing meme where we breathe in the moments that paint a picture of the grander scheme. All moments are welcome in this space — small or large, as community is just as important as the grander awareness brought on by searching for a bigger picture every week.

Bigger Picture Moment

We will be linking up here from this week out so you never have to wonder where to go! Just come back here every week and link up!
All links must be directly to your Bigger Picture Moment Post (not your main blog page) and must include a link back to us or they will be removed.
Our Community is filled with inspiring and talented writers so be sure you get round and read others stories and leave some comment love.

Don’t make decisions out of fear.
Be at peace with your decisions.
~ Father Sam

Our Pastor started his homily with that many, many, weeks ago. I quickly rummaged in my purse and wrote it (under the curious eye) of my husband on what I could find:

It’s been floating around in my purse, my heart and my mind for weeks.

Fear. Peace. Decisions.

Three little worlds swirling around in the bottom of a dirty purse. Swirling around a heavy heart ad a busy mind. Swirling by amazingly (seriously you should see my purse and my brain!) never lost.

There is so much to be scared of these days isn’t there? Spend an hour with the news or a neurotic friend and you will have a long list of things to start to worry and fear. Fear is easy, much like discontent it’s easier to let the fear fill our minds and hearts with it’s uncomfortable weight than to do the heavy lifting necessary to  push it out of the way and see the blessings that surround us. I know that fear is the easy way out, having the faith to know that he is with me and I don’t need to be afraid, that takes work, discipline. It’s not easy, but I know what I can do and how to do it. It doesn’t always work, fear is tricky, but I have methods and solutions.

Fear is not what struck me in Father
Sam’s quote. It was the “be at peace with your decisions“.

As parents we make hundreds (thousands?) of decisions big and small in a day. I would say that for most of my decisions fear doesn’t play into. I over think, research, think some more, weigh the pros and cons, ponder some more and then make a decision. You would think after all that I would have peace of mind right? No.  I second guess. All. The. Time.


Most of the time there is nothing I can do about it. It’s just one more thing to fret and worry over. One more thing weighing on my chest and taking my peace away. It’s silly really. Why not be at peace with my decisions? If I took my time and thought it through, didn’t make a rash decision based in fear but followed my heart and head shouldn’t I be at peace? Shouldn’t I believe He guided me to that decision?

It’s time to get over it. I don’t make decisions based on fear so I should learn to trust in myself and be at peace with what they are and where they take me.

Written by Melissa. Melissa is a mom of 2 kids and one angel and is expecting another bundle of joy and messes. She writes about Love, Life, Loss and everything else that gets stuck in her hair at Peanut Butter in my Hair.